Mindful wise speech invites others to let go of suffering

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I just read a great article by Ronald Alexander in Psychology Today, published today. He is talking about improving our relationships, especially as leaders, by wise open speaking. Given that I often write about wise open listening for leaders, I thought this article was a nice complement. The part I especially relate to is the following:

“When we cultivate wise speech, we don’t fear saying something wrong. However, we’re more attuned to the quality of our words and their effect on others. We speak up and say, “You seem upset by what I just said. Have I hurt your feelings?” inviting the other person to let go of his suffering. Wise speech fosters good relationships and partnerships and prevents future crises”.

As leaders it seems pretty important that we foster a culture of compassion and do not contribute to the suffering of others. Do you have first hand experience of this? From either side of the conversation? Love to hear some stories here.